Ok - I'm having a hard time deciding what to do about a certain bridesmaid. My best friend from high school was far from enthusiastic when I told her my engagement news. Her morals/goals are centered around a successful career, being indepedent, etc. Mine are around raising a family, settling down. She's always been judgemental of my traditional lifestyle. I called her with the news and she was very fake over the phone. I explained how he proposed (very simple, at home where we are comfortable, very romantic) and she paused and said "well...that's interesting I guess... I have to go, I'll call you later"... hasn't called back yet.
Long story short... if she's not supportive I dont want her in my wedding. She lives 8 hours a way as it is and if she's not on board I dont see her traveling back and forth for fittings, shower, etc.
How do I tell her I don't want her in my wedding unless she's genuinely supportive?
O, also... she and my fiance's sister dated the same guy back in high school/early college. They hate eachother. It would make for an uncomfortable bridal party with that tension alone.
Any advice is much appreciated!