I am a bridesmaid in my brother in laws wedding. I am very close with the bride, but don't know the other bridesmaids very well. The MOH is beginning the planning for the bridal shower and sent an e-mail saying the cheapest place is going to cost each girl between 175-275 $ depending on how many guest come. Just for the food. This price does not include the cake, decorations, favors or group gift (if we go that route). My husband and I are on a very strict budget trying to save for our first home. Not to mention we have 3 other weddings for close family in addition to this one, plus wedding gifts, bachelorette party's etc. The other bridesmaids are college students, so I know they don't have much money either, but since they are all family members I am sure they have parents willing to pay their share. Now as much as I would love to throw her a nice shower where everyone dresses up and we have Sunday brunch, I just 1. cant afford that, and 2. feel this just 'isn't the bride', she's a very laid back gal who never does anything over the top. I guess my questions is, should I just dish out the money and find a way to cut my budget elsewhere, or should I stand my ground and insist that I can not afford this? I did put in the suggestion of having it at a different place (like a firehouse or something) and we can all cook something! Is this 'tacky'? I am nervous of the backlash I am going to get from the other girls. Any feedback would be great! Thanks!!