I do not want to include my FMIL in planning my wedding. She is not helping pay for the wedding(which is not a big deal, just wanted to put it out there) but she is not the most supportive. She is an alcoholic and is constantly drunk.
She wants to come with me and my mother and BMs to pick out my dress. But I am afraid she may show up drunk and act outrageous. My fiancee loves his mom and wishes I would take the chance of including her but I don't want to be trying on my dress and she get mad about something and start cursing everyone out.
Also I don't want her to be a part of the wedding at all. I am planning this wedding to be the way that I want it. Having a drunk MIL is not the way I want it to happen.
And trust me I am not overexagerating her drinking problem, when my fiancee was 14 she kicked him out of the house because he didnt get along with her new boyfriend. Then while my fiancee was in the miliary and she has power of atterney she drove him into debt (which we are still paying off) and she still feels that he owes her.
Is there some kind of a way to tell her I don't want her to be a part of the wedding? Or our lives?