Hi Girls I need some advice, so I hope you can help.
My mother and I have never gotten along (I am almost 31). When my younger brother got married 3 1/2 years ago she was upset that they didn't really involve her and my dad in their planning process. She had been harassing me and my now-fiance to get engaged, and when we finally did last August I was worried she'd be overbearing, but no just the opposite. She wants nothing to do with it. I have invited her to bridal shows (not her thing), showed her the colors of my bridesmaids' dresses (doesn't care) among other things. Me and my fiance got in a fight with her a few days ago because a bridal show I went to on Saturday I had originally asked her and my fiance's mom to go back in November. My fiance's mom said she'd go as long as the weather wasn't bad (she lives 1 1/2 hour away), but my mom wasn't into those she said (she told fiance this). That was fine as I didn't wanna force people to go, but I told fiance she'd better not turn around 2 months from then and say I never invited/included her which of course she did the night before the show which led to a fight. When my fiance went to apologize to her last night for yelling, she brushed off his apology and said she was just gonna stay out of everything and just show up to the wedding. My dad is no help as he tries to stay out of our fights even when he hears her degrading me (which is often). Thank God for my amazing future mother-in-law who in the 4 1/2 years I've been with my fiance has been the mom I always wanted. She has been beyond great. But it hurts to know my mom wants nothing to do with me or this wedding. She has not spoken to me in a few days and I'm done letting her ruin this time for us. I'm just not sure how to handle going forth from here. Talking to her gets me nowhere and I'm sick of caving in.