Maybe you ladies could help me out with this...
I have 4 bridesmaids, and they are my 4 favorite ladies in the whole world. My sis is my MOH, then there is my cousin, and my 2 best friends. Everything was going fine, everyone was so excited, until shower planning time came. I provided my guest list and stayed out of it as instructed. Until the complaints started coming in. Sis and cousin kept trying to contact my best friend, and she never answered their calls. They would email her and she would respond, but not do any of the tasks they asked of her. Basically she was avoiding them. The other girls were then trying to get me to talk to her about it, which I was pretty uncomfortable with as they were planning a party for me which I had no involvement in (except to show up, naturally).
My best friend and I had plans to take the train to my hometown together the night before my shower, but she decided at the last minute she wasn't going because she didn't feel well. I'm sure she wasn't lying, but I was a little disappointed she wouldn't be there.
The shower was beautiful and the girls did a wonderful job, but since then, the other BM and my family have been saying things like, "so is '***** really coming to your wedding? Is she going to show up? Does she have a phone? etc. Any attempt I've made for the girls and I to all hang out together, ***** has canceled on us. I don't want a rift between my family and one of my friends. I'm just not sure how to handle this...