My mom and I are close (not joined at the hip!) but close. I got engaged in September after dating my FI for 5 years. I have noticed that my mom hasn't been very excited about the wedding planning. I've imagined us picking things out together, building the centerpieces, etc. My FI and I have decided to pay for the wedding ourselves because we don't want to inconvenience our parents. We didn't discuss the financial situation with our parents so they wouldn't feel like we had an "agenda" or hidden motive.
In a recent discussion with my mom, I expressed my concerns about her not being very enthusiastic. After some prying, she disclosed that me being engaged was a lot to take, and that although she likes my FI, she said he wasn't the man she pictured me marrying. Needless to say, I was crushed. Our conversation doesn't change anything, or doubt my relationship because I love my FI, and know he's perfect for me. But I'm just upset about her not being on board, or supporting me. Anyone else out there have this feeling? I feel like I have no one to discuss this with. If I talk to my FI he'll be crushed.