Hey girls! I have a situation I don't know if I can help with or just stay out of!!
My best friend Kate is getting married in early 2012 (still a ways away, I know!). She and her fiance live several hours out of state from where the wedding will be so while they were home for Christmas they made sure to get the locations set up and deposits down since there aren't a whole lot of options where I live. She's going to be planning much of this wedding either from several hours away or while she's home for short vacations. I'll be the MOH so I'll be doing my best to help her when she asks.
The problem is that Kate's mom planned her own wedding in a very short amount of time and is constantly telling her that she doesn't need to plan things this early. She's not going crazy with the planning or anything, she really only has the location booked and has begun an early dress search just to rule out styles and such. However, when we were out dress shopping, her mom didn't seem too into it and seemed to be more worried about what we were doing for lunch after leaving the store. Her mom made comments that the bridesmaids can find their dresses a couple months before the wedding even though Kate had discussed the need to order the dresses longer before that with a couple of the bridal salon attendants.
Kate understands that her mom's planning went a lot differently (and that things were much different back then) but she headed back home kind of hurt. I've been doing my best to reassure her that her mom is excited, (she has stated this) but I'm not sure how else to go about helping her figure out how to talk to her about it or how to take a step back.
Is there anything I can do to help things go more smoothly next time she's in town or do I just need to stay out of it and leave it between them? We're not related and even though her family is like family to me, I know it's not my place to say anything to her mom directly. But is there anything I can do to help Kate handle her mom's stressful comments? Or do I just need to be there for her to vent to?