I have never posted on a blog before, but I truly don't know where else to go. I'll start right in. My fiance and I were invited to a going away cookout yesterday for one of his family members. We weren't there 20 minutes before we were summoned to a back bedroom by his mother (who up until this has been completely happy, warm, sensible, and willing to do whatever to make our wedding planning easy on us) and accosted. First she started on us about not being involved in the planning of the rehearsal dinner. Mind you, we haven't even planned this yet! We made plans just 2 days ago to meet with a restaurant this week because that is what my future father-in-law told us to do. (He is out of state, paying for rehearsal dinner but cannot be here to give his input-they are divorced, also). While we tried to defend ourselves saying that nothing has been planned and that we honestly didn't know she was involved in the paying for or planning of rehearsal dinner, she then started telling us she feels left out and un-involved. She started complaining about the fact that we picked Thursday night instead of Friday night before the wedding. She said "What if my boyfriend can't make it?". I was shocked...this person isn't even her boyfriend, she wasn't even scheduled to have a guest since she isn't in a relationship and is IN the wedding party, and she is complaining about that?? I am so confused! When we tried to explain that we picked this day so that we could spend Friday getting preparted for the wedding and spending time with our wedding party or out of state family (like my fiances FATHER!) she said, "What about me? What am I supposed to do that day? Nothing involves me!". One thing led to another and this went on for 1.5hrs while an entire family cookout was going on right outside. She cried, she yelled, she told us she feels like she knows nothing that is going on (For the record, she has been kept up to date on everything..she's even seen MY dress!) and made even my quiet, shy, confrontation-free fiance so upset he screamed at her. It was truly an unbeliebable situation and I am totally unsure of what to do from here. She had no true examples of what she doesn't know about our wedding planning and then said our relationship is "forced" (hers and mine). This really hurt me so much that I said I wanted to leave and that I was very uncomfortable in this situation and felt I was caught way off guard. She told me to "Take it down a notch"....HUH??? Oh my goodness, I am beyond blown away by this display of true craziness and my fiance is even more upset. Is she on prescription pills? Is she drinking? Do weddings really make people THIS insane?? HELP! We are still 3 months out and she told me she's "afraid" to ask me if there is a bridal room at the hall that she can keep a bag in on the day of the wedding...that is her big concern, and the only example she could come up with for something she is unaware of. How do people get through this?? Our shower is 3 weeks away and I don't know how I'm going to be able to talk to her by then.