Bride trying on bridesmaid dresses

TiffannieF

So I, the bride, have gone bridesmaid dress shopping with my two girls and have found a dress that I like, however, I have found one on a designer website that I really want (matches my dress) but the bridal salon doesn't have the dress in stock (although they carry the designer).  So I have asked the bridal shop what to do and they have recommended that I come in and take a look at similar dresses and then make my decision.

Since the first couple trips with the girls was really complicated (took us weeks to coordinate a time together) and the girls just didn't hae a good time (dresses were 6 sizes too small and one had to bring her 3 year old) I was thinking that I could just try on the dresses and make the decision myself.

I feel guilty to call them up and try to make a big deal plus try to make them fit in the sample dresses when it would be much easier for me just to do it.  But I feel weird trying on the dresses myself. 

Is it weird? 

SSaltzman87

You really should have your BMs try on the dresses, after all-they'll be the ones wearing them-not you. Even if you wore the same size/had the same body type as them, everyone looks different in a dress and clothing is an incredibly personal thing. They really can't go off just seeing you in the dresses.

TiffannieF

I completely agree but the thing is the sample dresses won't be in their size so it's hard to even make have them get in the dress and make the decision of it looks good for their body type.  

I don't want to bring them to a shop and have me try on dresses, I just want to get look at the dresses similiar to the design I want so I can make the order but this may require me to try on dresses.  Since both girls are not the same figure and are wearing the same dress I find it pointless to find a dress that is the best fit for each individual, the point is to find a dress that is the best fit for both of them and compliments their figure.  I found a dress, that they tried on, that looked really with their body figures which is why I want to look at this dress before I have them order it...I rather order the one in the shop if it fits them better then this dress that I am interested in.

I'm not sure if that makes sense.  Do brides shop for bridesmaid dresses with out all the bridesmaids?  I've been a bridesmaid twice and one time the bride had already picked the dress I just went in for measurements, the second time I got to pick whatever I wanted.  So I'm not sure if brides do this...maybe not try on the dresses but at least look?

Cynthia1207

I looked at dresses online for the girls but ultimately it was their decision.  They chose their dresses.  I feel like if they have to wear a dress, let them choose it.  I really think you should at least ask them to go.  If you just go by yourself and decide to order without them seeing it or trying it, it might cause unnecessary problems.  I would just ask.  There's no harm in that.

TiffannieF

ok thanks for the advice!

SSaltzman87

I personally am just telling my BMs to wear long, black dresses-they don't have to be from the same designer, store-whatever, black is black. I'm hoping to alleviate a ton of stress by doing it that way :-)

vicki0508

I think it would be kind of pointless for you to try on sample size dresses to see what your non sample size bridesmaids would look good in. 

Do you need them to all have matching dresses?  Or can they pick a certain color, in any style, from the designer you like?  I think letting your BMs pick any dress in a particular color and designer would alleviate a lot of the stress for you.  They could go shopping on their own time, by themselves, and pick what they like.  You wouldn't even have to go with them!

If you want them to all wear matching dresses, you may want to consider making several trips.  Take one or two BMs with you, see what they like, then go another day with the other BMs.  It sounds really difficult for you to coordinate all of your BMs to go on the same day.

indiana108

It should be fine to try it on yourself.  My daughter's Bridesmaid live in 5 different states, so it is absolutely impossible for them to all get together!  Get pictures and let them have input on what they like.  And take into consideration their sizes (or flaws!) Best of Luck!

jerseydevil

That is kind of weird.

TiffannieF

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[QUOTE]That is kind of weird.
Posted by jerseydevil[/QUOTE]

lol, that's the response I was looking for :oP

I would like my girls to match, so I will go with the idea with asking the girls to come along if only one can make it then that should be fine.

Thanks everybody!  I absolutely LOVE social networking, I would be at a lose with out this site!

Muffin'sMom

And please make sure the cost is something they can afford!

gettinmarried11

my fiance and i actually went to pick our bridesmaid dresses.  I tried on the six that we liked and we looked at prices and then picked the one that we wanted them to wear.  I have been in both of my sister's weddings and they picked the dress and then we ordered them.  I am in my friends wedding 2 weeks after mine, and she picked the dresses and then i ordered it over the phone.  So don't worry about picking the dress on your own.  To me its the normal thing to do!

Haceto27

There's nothing wrong going to look at the dresses yourself. I just did that. It was impossible to get my girls together and when we did, there was always someone who wasn't feeling well. I felt bad, they felt bad, and no one had fun. So I found a dress I liked, went to see it, and now I LOVE it. Obviously, I'll have the girls see it before ordering anything but now that I know what I want I can tell them where it is and they can see it on their own schedules...hopefully, when I can tag along.