I am getting married in may 2013. I already have my maid of honor and matron of honor. I am having a hard time figuring out how to ask the other girls I would like to stand up in my wedding.
I have a hard time with friendships with women. The girls I want to ask are people I really care about and always have a good time with, but we do not talk on a regular basis. They also were close with my fiancé.
I know there are a lot of obligations with accepting to be a bridesmaid, but really all I want these girls to do is buy a dress and be there for me on that day, which, I think, they would have no problem with. I already have a make up artist and hair stylists that will take care of them on that day.
Where the difficulty lies is I do not want them to feel obligated to have me in their wedding parties when they get married. I am afraid they will say no to me because of this fact. I know they have sisters and other close girlfriends, and I do no feel like if I have them in mine, that they would have to ask me. I wouldn't expect them to. I just want them there for us on our day.
What would be the best way to ask them and to assure them that I do not expect them to return the gesture (unless they really want to) in the future? Thanks for the help!