I have a bridesmaid who is very unreliable. She actually asked to be in my wedding and I said I would love to have her but could not deal with her not returning calls, not showing up for things and causing me undue stress. So far, she called me when I was already at the menu tasting to ask if I minded if she did not come, called one hour before my first shower to say she wasn't coming, totally screwing the other two bridesmaids, canceled bridemaid shoe shopping when the other two came in from out of town to go and we had planned the day around her schedule (and were already at the mall), backed out of my girls' nite out, and text me the morning of my other shower to say she couldn't make it. I know she is under a lot of stress and is tired, which are the reasons she gives, but I feel she could at least have shown up for some of these things if even for a half hour. My fiance is livid, my family are all hurt and upset as am I, not mention tired of everyone asking where she is, being embarrassed and making excuses. This is the only thing in all the wedding plans that has brought me to tears...more than once. I have tried calling her to talk but she won't call back for days, and if I miss her call she won't call me again for days. I do not want to deal with her not showing up on my wedding day and am seriously considering asking her not to come. My family does not think she will show up and think at this point, with the disrespect she has shown us, I should ask her to step down. It is heartwrenching. Advice and words of wisdom are needed! Thank you