My MOH and I live on opposite coasts, which up until now hasn't been an issue. I brought up the dates I'm thinking of for the shower so she could start making arrangements. She then informed me that she could only come out for the wedding because of the cost, which I totally understood, so I offered to use miles to fly her out for both. Then she told me she is scared of flying and is planning on taking a train...and bringing 2 other people (it's a long journey and she wouldn't feel safe going alone). It's weird enough that my MOH won't be at my shower, but now there's 2 people, whom I only know through Facebook, coming to my wedding. I didn't want any drama, so I just told her it's ok and dropped it. I don't feel right pushing her to do something she's afraid of (flying), but I really want her there for both events, plus the train means I'm adding 2 strangers to my guest list. I really can't tell if I'm just being over sensitive and should just suck it up, or if I have valid concerns and should talk to her about it again. Advice please