Moms and Maids
Major MOH issues
I had originally asked my best friend and cousin to be my MOH. She declined for then religious reasons that are no longer a factor. When she declined I turned around and asked a long time friend and she accepted. She would also be getting married six months before my wedding but assured me that it wouldn't be an issue. Months later my friendship with her has become very strained over different views of what my fiancé and I have decided to do for our wedding. We barely talk and I barely see her. My cousin then confided in my fiancé that she regretted her decision and didn't know how to tell me. When I found out I decided to include her in the bridal party. This angered my friend who believed she didn't deserve to be a part of the day and who knew that I had always wanted my cousin as MOH. When I emailed my maids regarding dress shopping her response was negative and it brought me to tears and she made me feel guilty for asking six months in advance of my wedding when she thought we could do it four months before as she had. Because on relationship has become so rocky I have decided to have co-maids of honor to give myself peace of mind. My friend is very upset with me and the issue has caused huge conflict. We have tried to talk it out but it ended with her husband telling me that it was below to included my cousin and an insult to his wife and eventually his ejection of my fiancé and I from his house and his own choice to no longer be a groomsmen in our wedding. I want to mend the friendship with my friend but I am not going to change my mind about what my wedding day will be and who will be included. Her husband and my fiancé have chosen to no longer associate with each other and I don't want to have this conflict on the day of our wedding. What do I do?
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