What is the proper etiquette with regard to inviting nieces and nephews? My sister-in-law has stated that she would like to invite my 6 year old son to her wedding, but not my daughter, who will be 18 months at the time of the wedding. She feels that small children should not attend, no matter how close the relationship is.
I feel this puts me in a bit of an uncomfortable situation. First off, my feelings are hurt. I feel that my husband's whole family has treated my son like boy-wonder and have shown zero interest in my daughter since she was born.
Second, to me it seems that if she doesn't want my younger child included, she should invite neither child. My mother- and father-in-law are angry that we would want to exclude my older child from the affair, but I'm just so uncomfortable about the whole thing and being there with only one of my children would cast a pall on the whole day. I just feel that this is her only niece and nephew and that they should both be included (or excluded) but not one. And it should be noted that this is not the groom's position. He would have the baby there if it were up to him and whether or not my 6 year old son will be there, his 7 year old cousins will be. The whole thing is so uncomfortable.
I know that she's the bride and that what she says is supposed to go, but now I feel like I don't even want to be there. How do I handle this? Please note that my husband has been pushing the issue with his family to keep me out of the line of fire, but it doesn't seem to be getting us very far.
Thank you.