One of my best friends is an obvious choice for a BM but in the last few years her husband left her and it was a terrible divorce, she was actually pregnant when he left, there was a lot of lying involved. Really ugly. I feel terrible that she had to go through that, but now she keeps telling me that my FI reminds her a lot of her ex-husband and I can do better. While she seems excited for the wedding, she also voices her concern that he's like her ex-husband. While I understand her concern, I don't see the similarity... but I appreciate that she worries. I know not every relationship is the same, and my FI and I are not the same people. Every relationship is different and comes with its own challenges. How do I include her in my wedding party when I know she's screaming inside for me not to get married.