I am happy to have my FMIL involved in our wedding plans, and am very pleased that she is so excited for us. But, FMIL seems to be very confused about what is and is not appropriate for a wedding. Our theme is "vintage farm" and she is so hooked on the theme idea, that she forgets it is a wedding also. She thinks its a costume party, and also that every single detail has to match the theme. She asked me a few times if she can go look for decorations for us, and I politely said "no, thanks."
She called me last week all excited that she bought decorations.Turns out, she bought 2 coffee cups, a cow figurine and a small watering can from a garage sale. Please tell me, wtf do these things have to do with our wedding, other than they have a country reference? I smiled and nodded, as I have been doing all along. Then she brought out even more stuff and I realized that If I don't say something soon, she will spend tons of money on crap that has no purpose in our wedding at all. Just because it is farm related, does NOT mean that its useful to us.
She is beating our theme to death. She doesn't get that this is still a wedding and not a children's party. She saw a cake at a baby shower that was a hay bale with farm animals on it. She has been blowing my phone up for the past week asking me if I want her to inquire about this cake (but never offered to pay for it). First of all, it was really poorly done and very ugly. Second, there was a reason she saw it at a baby shower. I politely told her we just want a regular cake and she insisted that this cake would be perfect.
Can someone give me some advice on how to get her to stop spending her own money on stuff that is totally useless? I am more than happy to have her involved in the wedding but I want her involved in things that are helpful and NOT counter productive. Also, how can I explain to her that this is still a wedding and decorations still need to be appropriate for one?