Let me preface this by saying that I was raied by my maternal grandparents because my mother had me when she was 20 and my father was never in the picture. She has since been resentful that at the age of 9, when I was finally awarded the opportunity to live with her, that I chose to stay with my grandparents instead.
Fast forward 15 years.
I am getting married in June. I have tried and tried to get my mother invested in my wedding. She has told me that she doesn't approve me marrying my fiance. She has made it very clear that she hates my MOH. She hasn't shown up to a single wedding dress, florist, or tasting appointment. Every time I bring up my wedding to her, all I get is a "hmph." So, finally, I stopped asking her. When she found out I did something without her (had my dress fitted), she went crazy (as if she wasn't already).
Now, she's started sending me "mother-of-the-bride" dress ideas. All of the dresses are indicative of a mid-life crisis. They are all extremely low cut in both the front and the back and look more like gaudy prom dresses than something a 45 year old woman should be wearing.
What I have said is only the tip of the ice berg. And really what I'm getting at is that I don't want her at my wedding. She's being selfish and unpredictable - exactly what I don't want at my wedding. This is my day, and for the first time in my life, I want to make sure that it doesn't end up about her.
If you have any advice about whether or not I should disclude her and if I should, how I should go about doing it, let me know.
This is so hard...