No Dad!

stori489

My dad passed away when I was 14. I would like for my brother and my uncle to give me away. My brother doesn't like my uncle and doesn't want him to have any part in it. I dont know what to do. Can anyone give me any advice? I thought about walking myself down the aisle?? Any Tips?

526SadieSadie

Your brother should put his feelings about your uncle aside for the 30-45 second walk down the aisle, it's not about him, it's about you. 

brianabrad

What about your mom? My father was never around and has since passed away and I never would have thought of anyone but my mom, even if my dad was living.

drileybubeck

I'd either tell your brother to stop being so selfish and suck it up or go alone.

spinner84

Go the turkish tradition and walk down the aisle with your fiance! Or walk alone.

Dollbaby357

Sorry for your lost.  My dad will not be in attendance at my wedding either.  He isn't a highly social person and does not like flying so to avoid conflict and making him uncomfortable he isn't going to be there to walk me down the aisle though i would love him to, I know it wouldn't be right to make him feel obligated.  

So in his place our oldest son who is 10 will do the honors :-) and then take his place next to fh at the alter as his jr. groomsman.  I have a huge family and am the youngest of 6 so choosing a few of my siblings to participate would be conflicting.  Other than my fh he is the only other person I would rather do the job everyone else comes after.  We are actually using our children as our bridal party flower girl, ring bearer, escort/jr groomsman and us :-).

Sylvia

ces25c

Sorry for your loss.  My dad passed away a few years ago and I haven't decided yet but I am either having my mom walk me, or going down the aisle alone.
I'm having trouble deciding since I like the independence of walking alone and not having someone "give" me to my fiance, but I might want someone there to support me.
I think your brother needs to let whatever problem he has with your uncle go long enough for you to have your wedding the way you like it, but if it will cause conflict maybe choose a different uncle or grandparent or something?

sameagan

Sorry for your loss. I completely understand your situation and ran into the same problem with a few of my family members... Honestly I think the best way to honor your father is to walk alone and show everyone that no one can take his place.

Also, make sure you square away with your brother that any conflicts on or leading up the wedding day are to be silenced in respect to your day. I just met with both sides of my family and gave them the run down that if they are going to cause issues then they should not come... I would hope you don't have to go to that degree, but most definitely talk to your brother.

maisery22

My friend walked herself down the aisle even though her dad was there, she said it was a symbol of her being a strong independant woman and I liked that.

stori489

Thanks everyone so much!!! I really appreciate your input! I love the loveslug's suggestion! I started crying when I read it. That away they are giving me away and acknowledging that I am ready to be given away. Also at the same time I am independent and doing it alone!!! Thank you SO Much!!!

JCSept

My dad passed away when I was four.  So my mom is walking down the aile with me.  In other words, she'll be the one to "give me away".  I cannot think of someone better .

Storytime

loveslug, That is such a beautiful idea!