There is a long story to go along with this problem, but here is the gist of it:
My mother is a witch. She is unsupportive, complains about everything, doesn't know my FI's name, has no interest in meeting my FILs, and is just doing everything she can to rock the boat.
My FMIL and I have a great relationship. She is really upset about the things my mother has been doing lately and wants to throw me a bridal shower (she told FI this, and he told me because he didn't want me to melt-down if I was surprised by it).
TBH, I am a little hurt that my BMs aren't planning to throw me a shower. I know it's not required of them, and I would never ask for one, but as my close friends I would have thought they'd want to do this for me (I would have done it for them). On top of that, there is so much drama with my mother who would be furious beyond words if a bridal shower happened here (I live in OH, same as FI and FILs) rather than in MA where my family lives.
Is a bridal shower one of those things you remember and cherish for ever? Or is it just a wedding thing you do to say you did it? I don't want to miss out on a good opportunity to have a shower, but I also think that I would just be upset that my BMs weren't involved and, of course, the inevitable shiit that will come from mother dearest. FI offered to make an excuse to FMIL if I really don't want a bridal shower, but FI doesn't have any sisters and I know FMIL is dying to be involved in the wedding as much as possible.
Is it worth stirring the pot over?
TIA.