Do not want a Bridal Shower

krock12

Is it okay to not want a bridal shower?  The reason being is, I live on the west coast and my two sisters, who are my maid/matron of honor and rest of my family live on the east coast.  The wedding is July in Colorado and I will not have any time to go east before the wedding.  Plus, I know a lot of people won't be able to make it to the wedding, so I don't see the point of having the bridal shower.  I just feel it will be an extra expense for an already expensive wedding for the people coming to the wedding.  What do you think?

trix1223

I think that if you don't want a shower, you tell your BMs and your family and you have your FI let his family know that you'd prefer not to have a shower.  And if they try to talk you out of your decision, which is very reasonable, IMO, you tell them you appreciate their thoughtfulness, but you feel strongly about this.

pandasquishy

It's 100% okay to decline a shower if you don't want one.

aerinpegadrak

I"m in a similar situation, my family is scattered all over the place.  While I did want a shower and MOH offered to throw one, after talking it over we decided that the logistics were just too much to handle and no one would be able to make a second trip for a shower, so it wasn't going to happen.  Just tell anyone who offers, "Thanks, but there's no way I can get out there to attend."  You never know, they might all pitch in and buy you a plane ticket or something.

MollySm

I'm not having one.  I would feel very strange sitting and having people watch me open presents. Instead we're having a bachelorette weekend - going on a wine trail, doing dinner, and just all spending time together.  Everyone seems happy with that.