I have 4 bridesmaids in my wedding, and I'm not sure if 3 of them know whether they are supposed to pay for their own dress since I don't believe everyone knows that tradition and they have not been in many weddings. The other problem is all three are in school and don't have a lot of money. I'm just worried it'll be all weird when we get up to the cash register. I don't want my special day of getting that wedding dress being all weird.
My sister tells me I shouldn't have to ask them whether they need help paying becaue it would be tacky and they agreed to stand up for me. At the same time, I'm in school too so it's only my soon to be husband supporting us and i work a very part time job, so it's not like we have a lot of money either to pay for every bridesmaid dress. They also are in their late 20s getting their masters and PhD so it's not like I'm asking them when they're only 19 or anything. Maybe we could help alleviate the costs... I just feel bad and I'm not sure what to say or do.
I don't expect them to get expensive dresses, nothing above $200 and preferably lower if they can find a decent dress. I obviously want some input in the bridesmaid dresses but I'd like them to pick something they like too and can maybe even wear again so they have more imput than me. I don't expect them to pay for much else other than any tailoring that needs to be done and to buyt their own shoes. No bachelorette or shower and I might pay for all their hair to be done.
Any advice on whether I should say or do anything?