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Hog trough dance?

My brother and soon to be sister in law are getting married in July.  I am 16 days older than my brother (I am adopted) and therefore my sister in law wants me to dance in the hog trough.  I tried to convince them that since I am also engaged that its really not necessary for me to dance in the trough.  That didn't work... I am perhaps the clumsiest person ever and i dread dancing in front of everyone! Did anyone else have to dance in the trough? How bad was it?

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  • No if you are engaged you shouldn't have to do it obviously! Besides if you really don't want to I don't think the hog trough dance is very necessary especially since it is supposed to be for your benefit and not the bride's! 
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    My brother and soon to be sister in law are getting married in July.  I am 16 days older than my brother (I am adopted) and therefore my sister in law wants me to dance in the hog trough.  I tried to convince them that since I am also engaged that its really not necessary for me to dance in the trough.  That didn't work... I am perhaps the clumsiest person ever and i dread dancing in front of everyone! Did anyone else have to dance in the trough? How bad was it?
    Posted by cassiew0507
    WTH is a trough dance?

    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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    Posted by trix1223
    *waiting for response*  I've never heard of this either!
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  • this sounds retarded. sorry. 
  • Okay, so I googled Hog Trough Dance.  How completely dreadful.

    http://bridalfilms.net/blog/2008/04/pig-trough-dance-wedding-tradition.html

    The idea is to humiliate the older sibling?  Sounds like a lovely wedding tradition!
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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    this sounds r*******. sorry. 
    Posted by psichick

    I agree that it sounds odd, but maybe a different choice of words?  I work with special needs kids and have 2 precious cousins with special needs.  Any use of the r-word makes my blood boil and breaks my heart.  I can not just ignore it.  You can visit www.r-word.org to pledge to eliminate the use of the word.

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  • If I were you I would just straight up refuse to do it. That sounds like a way for them to try to humiliate you. Just tell them you aren't doing it and leave it at that. Nobody can force you to do something you don't want to.

    And that is probably one of the stupidest traditions I've heard of.
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  • Wow.  I also would refuse to do this as it just seems uncomfortable for everyone involved.  As a guest I think I would rather see a dollar dance... Ha!
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  • This looks absolutely mortifying!  How on earth did your FSIL find this tradition?I'd never heard of it, and I really kind of think maybe nobody should.  Like PPs said, this seems like a way to humiliate older siblings.

    There is NO shame in refusing to do this!!!
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  • I had never heard of this either.  Weird.  Tell her no thanks.
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  • uh yeah, tell her to eff off. no one should have to do this, engaged or otherwise
  • If my sister had told me to do this at her wedding, I would have laughed in her face.  Of course, I have no idea where we would have even gotten a hog trough to dance in, but still.  I wouldn't have even pretended to go along with it.  How ridiculous.
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  • I'm with kaufman--tell her to F off.
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  • That is horrific.

    I am the older sibling, but if my sister tried to make me do that, I would boycott the wedding.
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  • "Sorry, but I will not be doing this.  If you try to force me, I will embarrass you and make a scene at your wedding.  Please drop it."
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    If you're not confortable with doing it, then don't.  It's as easy as that.  I think if you had a fun attitude about it, though, it could be fun.  That guy in that video was certainly having fun, but being a spectacle of humiliation isn't for everyone surely.
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  • That is quite possibly the dumbest thing I've ever seen.  If she was so concerned with it being "bad luck" for her FI to get married before you, why didn't she just wait until after you got married to have her own wedding?  Tell her if she wants someone to dance in a hog trough, she'll have to do it herself.
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  • Its actually quite popular to do in my little town and a lot of the wedding guest will actually expect it.... so i guess I will take one for the team....
  • Well I did it! I danced in the trough and it actually was fun!! My sister in law danced with me and then my brother danced with me and then my fiance... I was telling my future in laws about it and my fiances older single brother ASKED if he got to dance in the trough at my wedding.... I guess I got worked up about nothing....
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