Hi everyone! This is my first post in here after getting engaged on December 20, 2012
So we are obviously very early in the planning process, but I'm already having a bridesmaid dilemma. I always knew of 7 girls that I would ask to be in my wedding party (3 lifelong friends, 4 from college; I am an only child). My fiance has 2 sisters who I am not very close with (though I wish I were!), and I asked him in the beginning if he wanted them to be in the wedding and he said no. So I went ahead and asked 5 of the 7 to be bridesmaids (one the MOH; one also might be a matron of honor because my fiance is having co-best men, but I haven't decided yet). Before I could ask the other 2, my fiance decided that we probably should ask his sisters since one of them mentioned that she would like to be in it. I wanted to ask them all along, but since he said no, I didn't. We have now decided to ask his 2 sisters, which is fine by me
But here comes the problem...what do I do about the other 2 close friends who I was planning to ask? My fiance has 9 groomsmen he could ask to even it up, but I worry that 9 is way too many. We plan to have about 150 guests at the wedding, including the bridal party. Everywhere I look and everyone I talk to says there is no set number, and that we should do what we want, but I worry that 9 will be too much. I think that I would feel bad not having those 2 girls in my wedding because we have been so close for so long, but I just don't know what to do.
Any advice that any of you have would be appreciated! Thank you!!