The other night I was talking to my sister who is also my MOH about the salon that I was having my hair trial the next day with. They were coming on site to do our hair (and the bridesmaids- if they chose to have it done- which is completely optional) She asked what the price was and said it was too much, and I should look into other salons. I had looked high and low for salons that come onsite to do our hair- I am paying for our hotel room for all the girls and we would all have mimosas and get our hair and makeup done in the am. ( that was the plan).
My sister then said she wasnt going to pay that kind of money to get her hair done- fine. I said or I can pay for some of the cost if she wnted as a gift. She then went off and said well my friend is paying for her girls to get their hair and make-up done, their shoes, a clutch and a necklace. Totally making me feel guilty.
I have been trying to search for gifts for these girls for the entire engagement and I wanted it to be special ( not for the wedding type gift). I dont have that kind of money to pay to get all of their makeup and hair done- it is an option for them to begin with. I am not requiring them to get it done.
I made a few phone calls and was able to get a salon to do our hair for half the cost but we would have to go there. The make up artist will be allowed to come and do our make up ( thank god) Again- I am changing my plans for my MOH. I did not want to go anywhere that morning to begin with, but since it sounded like she wanted her hair done I felt bad and changed the salon. I feel bad I couldnt afford to pay for them to get their hair done at the hotel.
I am still trying to come up with what to give the girls, but now with the cheaper price for the hair, I am thinking of paying for their hair as a part of their gift. I feel like my sister has high expectations that I cant meet. I dont know what to do?! a gift for them is only supposed to be" equivalent to a birthday gift!" and not for the wedding.
If I do decide to pay for their hair then do i need to let them know ahead of time to think about how they would like it? how do I tell them?
Thoughts on this whole issue? I know this is long