As a follow up to my post "How Can I Step Down from Being a Bridesmaid"
posted at 5/19/2010 3:08 AM CDT on theknot.com...(I think it's about on page 2 or 3 of the bridal party boards now)
So I followed the good advice from fellow Knotties and my mom and emailed my cousin immediately. I sent a very clear, diplomatic, and kind email to my cousin explaining exactly why I was not going to be able to be in her wedding. When I didn't get a response by the end of day 2, I followed up with a phone call. I then proceeded to get a verbal reprimanding that was not so painful and I understand, but then she asked me not once over the duration of the phone call, but twice, to put off moving to Florida and going to school for a semester just so we can attend her one day event! It didn't sink in at first because I was still in apology mode, but my entire family just about fell over dumb founded that she would seriously consider and be so self absorbed to ask such a thing.
As for my fellow Knotties telling me a bridesmaid's duty ends at buying a dress and showing up the day of, please tell my cousin that! I left this next detail out b/c it wasn't relevant at the time I posted, but she gave me her MOH's cell many months ago and told me that I "need to get a hold of her to begin planning the Bridal Shower and Bachelorette party for her". I did not once offer to do this as I knew my limit financially.
Just wanted to share.