Ok, so I have previously posted about having a less than 2 months engagement. Our wedding is currently 24 days away. I have 6 Bridesmaids including my MOH and FI has 6 on his side as well. All of his GM are local. His sister is a BM and lives out of state, my cousin and another BM are a few hours away, 2 of them (including MOH are local) and finally the one I am having an issue with....
She was local when I asked her to be a BM. She doesn't drive and is quite a "hippie" (camps all summer long, etc) but I love this girl dearly. I knew I would have to take her to dress fittings and such but I want her to be in my wedding so I had no issue about that and asked her anyways. Since asking her and ordering all the dresses she broke her hand, likely going to have pins put in it, is unable to work, and has since moved 5 hours up north to stay with her dad.
Originally. I had planned to pick her up today and take her home on Monday so that she could get fitted for any alterations needed to the dress and attend the bridal shower hosted by my Mother. Now, she can't come because she is house sitting and needs the money. While I do understand that and I know she isn't really required to attend the shower I am having a mini panic attack over getting her dress taken care of. I also suspect she doesn't realize BM pay for their own dresses as she hasn't been in a wedding before (I know, this is my fault for not explaining it but most of my girls have been in weddings before or work in the industry so I never even thought about it) and I know she is not in a position to do so herself at this point in time.
So what do I do here??? My options, as I see them, are
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1) Make her an appointment to be fitted the week of the wedding, pick her up early so they have plenty of time to deal with the dress, pay for it out of my own pocket and not tell my other girls. (I feel badly paying for one and not all 6 but there is NO way I can afford 6 BM dresses)
2) Ask her to pay for it herself knowing she can't and therefore forcing her to step out of the wedding. I would feel HORRIBLE doing this to her because I KNOW she can't afford it now even though she could when the dresses where ordered.
UGGGGHHHHH....advice please?