What should I do? I adore my cousin and am so glad to be one of her bridesmaids. I just ot an email from the maid of honor informing the wedding party that the bachelorette weekend will be at a fancy resort with a spa day, etc...and I'll have to buy a plane ticket. I would have to spend over 1000 on the weekend, and I have a family to budget and save for. I hate missing out, but I also wonder what the protocol is. Should the maid of honor have consulted us first? I know several of us can't afford itmy sister included. She wants out answer by Jan 28 and payment by Feb 1. What should I do? I don't want to cause drama!