I am planning to have a small bridal party (around 2 or 3 people on each side). I am deciding on my bridesmaids. I have already chosen and informed my maid of honor of her role, and my 2nd bridesmaid is a sure choice and she knows about my decision but she has to wait another month to see if she will be deployed or not (she is in the military). However, the 3rd bridesmaid I am unsure of. We were friends in high school, and now she lives out of town and we hang out when we can. Back in the day we always talked about being bridesmaids at each other's wedding. Lately I feel like I have had to initiate all contact with her, and while she is excited about my wedding, I am questioning the reality of our friendship. To make matters worse my fiance is not too fond of her. However, I can't stand the thought of hurting her by not asking her to be in my bridal party. I am afraid she will badmouth me for years to come if I don't include her. If I give her another job to do I am afraid she will still feel slighted. Fellow brides, please help. The wedding is still 8 months away. With the way things are going will our friendship likely dissolve by then anyway? Even though we don't talk often will she still be devasted that she is not to be in my bridal party? Please help!!