Yesterday evening, DH received a phone call from his mom asking if we had RSVP'd for one of H's cousin's weddings. I was like what? No, we haven't RSVP'd yet, the wedding is in October. H's mom said the RSVP date had passed.
I was confused so I looked at the invite, and sure enough, the RSVP date was July 22 for an October 2 wedding. I told H that as bad as it sounds, it really made it seem like they had a B list since they had such an early RSVP date. H says "they do. That's what my mom told me on the phone."
I honestly don't know how to RSVP. The wedding is in Boston, and we live in IL. I'm not sure yet if we are going to be able to attend the wedding. Our financial situation now would allow for us to buy plane tickets to Boston, but in a couple of months, I don't really know what will be going on in our lives.
I guess my main point is that having a B list is not only rude to the B listers (implying they were not important enough to be invited during the first round) but it's also rude to the A listers to expect us to make travel plans and arrangements this far out.
Side note - groom's family is all from Illinois and bride's family is from the Philippines so there will a large percentage of people traveling for the wedding.