Anyone ever heard of this???

melntaitt

I met with the day-of coordinator and he threw in a best man/MOH dance that I hadn't heard of before. I asked him to explain and he said that they usually have their own dance together...

I've never heard of this and I certainly don't want to force them together; my cousin and my FBIL aren't very close. They've met twice and the RD and wedding will be the next few times they will meet.

Has anyone heard of this, because I'm not entirely sure it's something I want to force on them or even include. The coordinator is pretty sure it will be "fabulous"  for a cute photo moment but to me it might turn out to be just 4 minutes of mindless swaying with a complete stranger in front of a group of people.

Thoughts?

lindseyann410

This sounds horrible.  

A. Spotlight dances are sooo boring.  This will just make it drag on even more.

B. Imagine how uncomfortable your MOH and BM will be.  I would be mortified if I was MOH and the bride asked me to dance in front of a bunch of people with someone I barely even know.

C. I have been to many weddings, and I have never seen this. And if I did, I would probably think it was weird and boring.

Just say NO.  Strongly, emphatically, and repetitively if needed.

Simply Fated

I've never heard of this before. I was a MOH and even though I got along with the Best Man and danced with him in the bridal party dance and a few other times, a featured dance between just the two of us would have been super awkward.

AdeleDazeem

Why, oh why, would the best man and maid of honor need to dance together?  Please don't do this.

ski2play

Nope, never heard of that.  Do not do it.  Sound uncomfortable for all involved.

melntaitt

Consider it snipped; I'm glad because I think it is super weird. I can't even begin to think of why this would be considered ok.

In any case, I think he caught me off-guard because it was thrown in the conversation like, intro the wedding party, intro the parents, first dance, MOH/BM dance, toasts...

That was my "huh" moment and he brushed it off and acted surprised that I hadn't even thought of it...that's why I was confirming my sanity....

Ali092011

I have heard of it, and I saw it done once, but only because the BM and MOH were married and the dearest friends of the B & G. And it was cute and sweet because they played the couple's first dance song.

Still got bored watching them dance after the first two seconds, though.

Imagine the boring factor combined with the awkwardness of watching two near-strangers try to find rhythm...

Stand your ground and just say no.

melntaitt

I love that Ali...where's the like button

Summer2011Bride

Never heard of it. Just skip it. It would be awkard. This is exactly why we skipped a WP dance--I'm against pairing people up and making them dance with someone else besides their SO/date. And I'd re-think the coordinator as well.

pretzelgrrl

Thread hijack
   Summer2011 Love Love your photo...wish I had seen this before my wedding so I could have gotton one just like this

RaptorSLH

I have heard of a wedding party dance, where each bridesmaid dances with the groomsman who escorted her at the ceremony.  Consensus is that they're boring for the guests, somewhere between awkward and humiliating for the wedding party, and somewhere between awkward and insulting for the wedding party's dates.  It also requires even sides, which is a silly criteria to use.  Since your MOH and BM aren't close, skip it in good conscience.

melntaitt

Ok Raptor; that made me laought out loud.

sweetcanadian1979

i've never heard of it, your wc sounds kooky. Please please change your countdown siggy, i had such trouble reading your post because your seconds counting down distracted me (i get distracted easy). I know i am not the only one that can find that annoying.

cherisedb

I have recently been to a wedding where the lady that caught the bouquet and the guy that catches the garter share a dance together - BUT never heard of the MOH and BM sharing a dance. It is your wedding and you do exactly what you want to do ...

Belle0000

Ugh, skip any WP dance.  I've been in two wedding parties where I had to dance with the person who escorted me.  In the first one, my escort had recently been released from prison and he held me extremely close....soooo awkward and uncomfortable.  The second time, my escort was my brother, and he HATES dancing. Plus, he's my brother, and who wants to slow dance with their sibling?

andrea2473

That sounds awful and awkward. 

OP, you may get a lot of flack for your sig pics.  Particularly, the one with the moving countdown.  There's so much going on that it's a little disorienting. 

RamonaFlowers

Ditto PP's, I have heard of a dance for the whole WP (Which is lame and awkward for everybody involved), but I've never heard of the Best Man and MOH getting a spot light dance.

Just wanted you to know there's yet another person out there who thinks your DOC is off his nut

theholograms

I've been to literally a million weddings (okay actually more like 30) and I have never, ever seen this.  I would definitely veto this with the coordinator.