My soon to be sister-in-law (one of my bridesmaids) has been giving my fiance a GIGANTIC guilt trip because he didn't ask her husband to be a groomsmen. My fiance asked his close friends to be groomsmen and did not ask his sister's husband because he barely knows her husband and has nothing in common with him.
The tricky part is that his sister and her husband just got married last year and my fiance was a groomsmen in their wedding. My fiance is well aware that she made her now husband ask my fiance and that it wasn't really his decision since they don't really know each other that well. My fiance felt very awkward having to ride in a limo with all his drunk friends on the day of their wedding, so he wants to spare his sister's husband the same awkwardness.
Unfortunately, his sister is taking it personally that he didn't ask her husband and is being very difficult to reason with. She doesn't understand that he doesn't want to ask someone he barely knows and is not close to. The six guys he did ask are people he is extremely close to. Has anyone dealt with a similar situation? I don't want this to turn into a giant family fight.