I have one difficult bridesmaid. She is not getting along with the others, and seems to be making everything difficult. She opts out of a lot of things due to money, however she was able to go to Hawaii with her boyfriend in February and has planned another trip for them in May. I am buying her dress so really all she's has to provide is her shoes (she already owned), make up, hair, and flowers. She is buying a ticket to come down to my wedding which is a bit of an expense so I get that however I don't feel like she does much to save elsewhere or plan. The other bridesmaids are getting frustrated with her because they want to include her but she keeps making it difficult so they've done things with out her regarding the bachelorette party. I feel bad for them and don't want to make people mad but I'm not sure how to handle this? They've each tried to tackle the issue head on and not include me in the frustration but things haven't gotten better so they've spilled their guts to me.
She herself hasn't expressed any frustration so I'm not sure if she realizes that others are annoyed with her. Two other bridesmaids have already had fights with her but they've made up and moved on. How do you handle this? I don't want to make anyone do anything they don't want, but I don't want everyone to be miserable!