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How to introduce wedding party to each other?

Hi ladies, I'm looking for some tips/ideas .. there are 10 people in our wedding and very few of them know each other.  My fiance and I tried on several occasions this summer to get everyone together to introduce each other and get them talking, but with everyone's busy schedules (we ourselves work shifts as do a few of ours friends) this didn't happen.

Sooo I'm toying with the idea of sending out an email to introduce and get the WP in touch with each other so they can start communicating since our wedding is 7 months away.  Or perhaps give the MOH & BM everyone's email and let them take the initiative?

Let me know what you think please ... I'm so stuck on this one!!

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.... guess i'm not used to writing on boards since the first answer is not what i was asking, so let me clarify a bit more :-)  it's absurd to think that the WP will be each other's new best friends! LOL  this is not what i'm asking.  My fiance & I have been asked by the individual people to let them just meet the others since they want to start planning showers, jack & jill etc & simply ... the BBQ was actually their idea ... all i simply want to do is get everyone's contact info to the group, so if THEY want to, THEY can contact each other.  I was just wondering what's better etiquette - me sending the email or the MOH/BM ... or something else altogether.

Re: How to introduce wedding party to each other?

  • A WP isn't a new social group.  They don't have to be friends with each other, so don't try to force a relationship through WP play dates.

    If you just want them to know who everyone is, it's fine for you to send out an email saying, "This is the WP!" but please don't have getting-to-know-you BBQs or anything.  I've been in WPs where I didn't even catch the name of the guy I walked down the aisle with, and that was fine because I'd never met him before and haven't seen him since.
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  • Yeah, a get-together is totally unnecessary.  The only interest any member of my WP has shown in another member that they didn't know was my FI's friend asking if the girl he was escorting was hot lol.  I too cannot remember the name of any guy I've ever been paired with in a WP...and I have a good memory! 

    Just send an email giving them each other's contact information if you feel the need.  Then they can have the info to do with it as they please.
  • The thing that your WP all has in common in you.  They'll be happy to be in your WP because they care about you.  And they'll be cordial to each other at prewedding events and at your wedding, because they care about you.

    But brooke is 100% right.  More than that is probably expecting too much.  My  DDs were in DIL's WP.  They didn't know DIL's childhood friends, but they had fun at the wedding.  And since the 2006 wedding, they haven't had any contact with them.

    DD and DIL were in our other DD's wedding.  Again:  cordial to other WP members at all events.  And since the 2009 wedding, haven't had any contact.

    My point is:  they don't need to "get to know" each other.  They're adults.  They'll behave appropriately because they're adults and they care about you.  Send one group email with contact information.  That way, if they need to be in contact for shower or other party planning, they can.

    But stop trying to plan an "event" for the WP.  It's completely unneccessary.


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    Hi ladies, I'm looking for some tips/ideas .. there are 10 people in our wedding and very few of them know each other.  My fiance and I tried on several occasions this summer to get everyone together to introduce each other and get them talking, but with everyone's busy schedules (we ourselves work shifts as do a few of ours friends) this didn't happen. Sooo I'm toying with the idea of sending out an email to introduce and get the WP in touch with each other so they can start communicating since our wedding is 7 months away.  Or perhaps give the MOH & BM everyone's email and let them take the initiative? Let me know what you think please ... I'm so stuck on this one!! SoBe Bride to Be .... guess i'm not used to writing on boards since the first answer is not what i was asking, so let me clarify a bit more :-)  it's absurd to think that the WP will be each other's new best friends! LOL  this is not what i'm asking.  My fiance & I have been asked by the individual people to let them just meet the others since they want to start planning showers, jack & jill etc & simply ... the BBQ was actually their idea ... all i simply want to do is get everyone's contact info to the group, so if THEY want to, THEY can contact each other.  I was just wondering what's better etiquette - me sending the email or the MOH/BM ... or something else altogether.
    Posted by KandM_2011
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
  • I had a WP bbq to get everyone together. It wouldn't have been a big deal if they did NOT meet. It was more of an excuse to get a group together for food/drinks and have our two groups of friends meet. With that being said, only 70% of the WP could attend which was fine. I wouldnt try to get the entire WP together - that may be impossible. But hey, most people are up for an excuse to bbq and drink :)

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  • I'd just send out an e-mail to everyone with each person's contact info. If they've mentioned doing a BBQ, it's fine to say "I know some of you wanted to get together, so let us know who's interested and when works" just like you'd do with any other group of friends. The important part is that you don't make anyone feel like you think this is some mandatory WP activity.

    Also, in the future, please consider making your follow-ups separate posts. If I've already responded to your OP, I'm not necessarily going to re-read it and notice you've adding information, so I think just creating a new post in the thread will be more helpful to you.
  • I agree that it's not necessary for the WP to meet each other. I think it might be awkward for some. I was in my best friends wedding last year and I've known her for like 19yrs but I don't hang out in her social circle and she doesn't hang out in mine. I wouldn't want to feel obligated to do a "meet and greet" with the WP, and the wedding went just fine without me knowing almost the entire WP. I'm not there to make new friends, just support the one I already have.
  • I did an introductory group email of sorts to the bridesmaids.  I basically included a brief blurb about each girl including how I know her, where she lives, and what she does.  Very basic info, and that way they all had each other's email.  They weren't all in the same room together until the day of the wedding, which was totally fine. 

    Presumably they are all reasonable adults and can manage to be sociable and civil to each other at the wedding festivities.  If all they want is contact info, you can pass that along without really needing to make a fuss over it.
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  • Oh I didn't even see the edited OP.  Send the email out yourself.  Let them decide what they want to do with the info.  It might be awkward for the MOH or BM to send out the initial email, especially if they don't know the rest of the WP.

    I'm a BM in my friend's wedding and even though the other BMs and I are already friends, two of the BMs don't know each other very well.  Every day or so she sends us all an email on some random topic and we'll get a long email chain going (thank God I'm not busy this semester!) that's usually really entertaining and so they've gotten to know each other that way.  But I doubt they'll be BFFs after the wedding.  
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  • Thanks everyone for the tips!  Both of emailing the WP ... and posting new replies to my question.  Laughing
  • We invited everyone over with their spouses/significant others for a house party. We had drinks and appetizers and had a great time. Everyone got along great
  • In Response to Re: How to introduce wedding party to each other?:
    I had a WP bbq to get everyone together. It wouldn't have been a big deal if they did NOT meet. It was more of an excuse to get a group together for food/drinks and have our two groups of friends meet. With that being said, only 70% of the WP could attend which was fine. I wouldnt try to get the entire WP together - that may be impossible. But hey, most people are up for an excuse to bbq and drink :)
    Posted by ReneeJacob
    This is what we did & we did it this past weekend because all my "girls" from out of state came in so we could all go shopping together.  2 of the gms couldn't make it, no big deal,,,we had a GREAT time!!!!!
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  • Have an informal rehearsal dinner -- BBQ or pizza in somebody's backyard and a keg. They'll be BFFs before you know it.

  • We had an engagement party and got everyone together.  Shortly there after, all my BM's were friends on FB lol
    We were thinking about having something more personal for just the WP, since we don't all get together often.  But it's not something that will make or break the wedding day if we don't do.  Everyone knows each other for the most part, it would just be an excuse for dinner and drinks.  If it's something that you can do easily, then go for it.  If it becomes more of a project then what it's worth, don't stress yourself over it. Smile
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  • I don't think a get together is completely necessary, but if one were to happen it wouldn't be the end of the world. But, I guess I'd leave it up to the WP-if they want that to happen, they can plan something.

    In fact, our Best Man has expressed interest in hosting a get together for our WP. All my BMs know each other since they're friends, a couple of the GMs know everyone too. The Best Man happens to be FI's cousin, so he doesn't know anyone.
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  • best advice ever is facebook.

    My bridesmaids were from all over the place, different towns, and different parts of the state.

    Of course they all have different lives/schedules but even if they lived locally it would be a waste of time for them to get together to talk about any plans such as if they wanted to throw a shower.

    You can give the MOH everyones name.. or tell them who they are on facebook,. or emails.. and the MOH can email people if she wishes.

    They do not have to meet face to face to help plan a shower or bach party etc.

    You need to understand that.  Be realistic.  My bridesmaids all became FB friends and talked about dresses/shower/bach etc.

    But their wasn't much to talk about the shower because the mothers threw it so they basically just talked to my MOH about the Bach Party.  My MOH made a FB group and invited the other BM's to the group/private group.  And never had to pick up a phone or text.. they knew where and when the bach was, and got together the day of and that was that..

    No need for a formal planned and set get together to meet face to face to discuss wedding plans.

    That is not necessary
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