Hello,
I have a friend who I've know for 6 years and I want to have her in my wedding. Here are two things holding me back......her husband and her children. Her husband told my FI that he if isn't a groomsman then he wont be attending the wedding. She has two children and she brings them everywhere she goes. I am afraid she will bring them to everything like fittings and girl dates, etc. i really want to ask her, but I also want to let her know that it's a big commitment and that I will need her help, not her whole family. I will be considerate because she is married and has kids but her husband is the type that doesn't help her out. I just don't want a bridesmaid that will be flakey because she can't attend or help out a lot. BUT we have been friends for so long.......please help ladies because I don't know what to do.