Sorry for the rambling post, in advance!
I lrealized that I completely forgot about my cousin when choosing my bridal party (I know it's a long way out, but I've been friends with all the girls for years, and am related to my moh), and want to ask her to be a bridesmaid. I haven't seen her in a few years, since she lives 4 1/2 hours away, but we keep in touch with email. However, I want to ask her in a slightly more special way, and am planning on writing her a letter/card, and mailing it, asking her to be my bridesmaid. BUT, she's the kind of girl who kind of thinks weddings are stupid, and I am in no way offended or hurt if she says no to being a bm, and I want to say something like that in the letter - but don't know how to word it. Basically, please help me say, "I want you to be in my wedding party but if you don't want to that's ok but I would love to have you up there with me."