My maid of honor has shown no respect or appreciation for the position of moh. We are cousins and she is jealous that she is not married or engaged, and has barely acknowledged the fact that my wedding is in a few months. Has made no plans for bachelorette party or showers, nothing. My other very good friends have gone above and beyond to plan all these and are very excited for me and let me know on a regular basis. I want to politely tell my maid of honor that I think it would be better for both of us if she was just a bridesmaid. Is this ok to do?