First let me explain, I was engaged before but the wedding fell through because of quite a few issues. It has been 2 years and I am engaged to the love of my life and we plan on getting married in Nov 2013. In my past wedding plans, my cousin was going to be my maid of honor. So since I am engaged now she expects that title. I understand this is a little messed up to take that from her but I feel we aren't close at all. She knows nothing about me and I don't want that. It is a different time in my life and I have people who I know I want in my bridal party next to me. She is not one of them and I don't know how to tell her. She is going to the rest of the family talking about how I had better ask her to be my maid of honor again, and now I have the rest of the family down my throat and it is terribly upsetting.. I know it is going to hurt her, but I know there has to be a nicer way to say it. Is it wrong of me to feel that it is rude of her to expect to be the maid of honor? I feel this whole thing has blown up way to much and its not even 2013 yet.. Any advice would be wonderful...