Bridal Party-All Female

[Deleted User]

My groom refuses to have groomsmen for our wedding and I have a host for friends I want to be bridesmaids.   Is it a bad idea to have an all female bridal with the exception of my fiance and his bestman.

bablingbrooke

Why would it be a bad idea?

mbcdefg

no

AutumnFair

You get to pick your side and he gets to pick his. So you yeah, your in the clear with having a lot of girls if you want. 

kellya01

It might be a little unconventional, but that doesn't mean it's bad.  Do what works for you. 

[Deleted User]

He keeps telling me that the most important thing is that he's  marrying me and  not everyone else.  That he won't be focused on anyone but me.   I want him to be involved as this is OUR wedding and not MY wedding.   I also don't want to be a Bridezilla.

I was considering cutting the entire ideas of having a bridal party, which would be disappointing but i don't want to fight about it.. i just want it to be memorable,

mbcdefg

Why do you think this would make you a bridezilla? Why would you cut your friends out of the bridal party just because things aren't even or gender-balanced? Why do you think there'd be a fight?

Both of you should include who you want, and not worry about matching things up or keeping things balanced. Your guests don't care about that. They're there to see you get married and celebrate with you afterward ... and your friends are there to support you.

Your solution is fine ... you have the women you want, and your FI has his Best Man, and it'll all be fine. What's the issue here? Your plan is perfect.

Licia&Wayne

I think there's a problem with your thought process here. Just because he has one guy standing on his side doesn't mean it has any effect on yours.

Ask the people that you want to stand next to you while you're getting married. Forget symmetry, convention, photos, etc. and just have the people you want standing next to you.

Can you explain a little further why you want to abandon the idea of a wedding party when it obviously means a lot to you?

bablingbrooke

It's not bridezilla behaviour to have a WP.  It would be bridezilla to, say, tell him he has to cut someone to even out the sides. But that's not what's going on here by a long shot.

He can opt out of the WP on his side, but that doesn't mean you have to opt out on your WP, particularly since it's so important to you.

[Deleted User]

No. You pick your side, he picks his side. Plain and simple. Uneven wedding parties are perfectly fine.

lalap69

I don't understand why you wouldn't have bridesmaids when it's clearly important to you just because your FI doesn't want groomsmen.  Have them.  Your sides will be uneven - so what?

banana468

It's fine to have BMs when he only has his BM.  I went to a wedding that was done just the opposite way and it was just fine.

[Deleted User]

For the same reasons you advised me to forget about. Pictures, Asymetrical etc.

Thank you for the feedback.

Manwaithiel

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridal-party-female?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:f356c5f8-e1b2-45a3-94ef-4ef2079eedc5Post:3548a23a-5413-47df-937d-793422c55074">Re: Bridal Party-All Female</a>:
[QUOTE]For the same reasons you advised me to forget about. Pictures, Asymetrical etc. Thank you for the feedback.
Posted by speciallady4204[/QUOTE]

What do you mean? Are you responding to something here?

aerinpegadrak

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridal-party-female?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:f356c5f8-e1b2-45a3-94ef-4ef2079eedc5Post:aff42f75-0ab6-433a-9e68-abbe5589a2ad">Re: Bridal Party-All Female</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal Party-All Female : What do you mean? Are you responding to something here?
Posted by Manwaithiel[/QUOTE]
I think she was responding to Brooke.