Here's the situation:
I got engaged in June and at that time I didn't really have many close girl friends. I had recently started going to dinner with a friend from high school but the thing is she would always bring her boyfriend along too. I think the first time we had dinner was the week or so after being proposed to. and of course I was rather excited about being engaged so I asked her to be a bridesmaid. She said yes and we decided to make dinner a weekly thing. Still, every time she would bring her s/o along. I finally asked her once if we could hang out one on one. She agreed but I ended up having to cancel and asked her if we could do it the following week. She said she'd check her schedule to let me know but never ended up getting back to me. This was in August and she ended up travelling out of state to see her family the week after we were supposed to reschedule so I let it slide. The thing is, she hasn't gotten back to me until this week when I posted a link to our wedding site. She saw it and immediately texted me.
I'd really like to not have her in my party anymore for a few reasons. a) I don't feel the level of effort from her that I put into the relationship. b) another girl who is in the party is dating her ex from high school and the two have resentful feelings toward each other -- I am a lot closer with the second girl, we see each other on a weekly basis. c) I've notice that we have changed a lot. We were close in high school but since then things have (obviously) changed and our interests aren't the same anymore...
I guess I'm just looking for advice. Should I suck it up or try and figure out a way to explain the situation to her? Thanks (: