Both my fiance's and my family live out of state and we have a lot of relatives, many of whom we haven't seen for awhile.
It has occured to me at 3 weeks away from the big day, that that week before the wedding while everyone is in town is going to be a big fat cluster-mess!!
My advice is this:
Make everyone stay at the same place, that way they can all get together and you and the fiance can meet them each morning and plan the day. Everyone will know that on Monday night you'll be having deinner with his folks only, and on tuesday night a big group is going out together. On wed you'll all go to the museum... etc. etc. Also they can all help each other out this way, and you won't get bugged to tell everyone individually directions, where to get panythose and all that kind of stuff.
I made it evn worse on myself, with the invitations I included a map and some info about tourist stuff in the area, I got everyone excited, but included no real plan!
I can picture it now how confusing and frustrating this is going to be!
I say schedule an itinerary well in advance. Include with the invites, post it on your wedding website and ask people if they want to participate to Rsvp to each event individually. They can still jump on last minute, I'm sure, but this way they'll be aware of exactly what's going on. Scheduling in advance will also keep one guest from hoarding all your time.
I think what i'm going to do to remedy this is create a schedule right now and hand a paper copy to everyone as we see them!
If anyone has any advice for me as well it would be very appreciated!