I'm half Chinese, my dad was born in Hong Kong and his family moved to the US. My dad's side have all had an American wedding and then another Chinese ceremony and Chinese dinner reception. I'll be the first of my mixed cousins to get married, so I'll be setting the precedence. I don't speak much Chinese (enough to understand my grandmother and insult family members :P). I don't know how much I want to incorporate my heritage into the wedding. I know my grandmother will want to make sure everything is as traditional as possible. I was just thinking to have maybe red with gold embellishments, but they aren't my favorite colors and my SO's brother had a red/black wedding recently. Any ideas? Should I just ignore it? Do what my grandmother wants? Do as my aunts/uncles did and have two weddings?