Since I"m new to the Board, I'd like to introduce myself. I'm getting married in June (city hall) with a small dinner afterwards with our parents and siblings. Afterward, my FI/husband and I will be going to Taiwan so that my entire Taiwanese family can meet him (grandmas, aunties, etc). I'm half Taiwanese on my mother's side and was raised by her and my stepdad, but she passed away when I was 18. I visit Taiwan to see my grandma every couple of years, but because of distance and language issues (I'm conversational in Mandarin, but not enough and her Mandarin isn't very good either), it's been difficult to retain my heritage as much as I'd like. My dilemma is how to incorporate Taiwanese/Chinese elements into the reception in Taiwan that traditionally apply to the bride. I told my grandma I would give her money for the reception and asked if we could do a tea ceremony. She responded that I would do it only for my husband's family since I'm technically "marrying out" of the family (my FI is not-Chinese and I don't think they're going to Taiwan). Since my grandma is very traditional, are there any other traditions that I can incorporate while we're there that can traditionally apply to the bride's family? I can't help but feel like an outsider right now