Not sure if any of you encounter this? My fiance and I prefer a more westernized wedding, but my parents insist on keeping many traditions. At one point, I felt like I couldn't communicate to them and almost every conversation led to a disagreement/argument. My MOH told me to go ahead and do it the way I want it because my fiance and I are paying for the wedding and it's OUR wedding day. I am a bit hesitant to go ahead doing it my way w/o consulting my mom because I don't want a wedding to ruin relationships. We already argued over following topics:
--Kids vs. no kids. Fiance and I don't want kids, but my parents want kids at the wedding.
--Picking out the wedding date. My mom wants to pick out a good date following the lunar calendar and checking it with a fortune teller. I do not believe in that.
--Picking out a venue. My parents don't want a venue that it's too far away from where our relatives live. Mind you, it's w/in 1-2 hrs drive. Our wedding is going to be held in NYC. A lot of Chinese relatives would not go out of their borough to attend a wedding and they don't know how to drive.
etc.. How can I possibly please everyone?! I know I can't and I won't. But it's more frustrating than I thought..