Sorry knotties, I'm just having a hard time figuring these things out...My FI and I are both trying to grow spiritually. I come from a totally secular house, while he comes from a Conservative home. We have both been involved in the Orthodox Jewish community from school, and have made some friends within that community. now, FI and I are NOT by any standards at an Orthodox level (yet). We were going to eat Kosher meals at the wedding. 100 out of the 130 people are not religious at all. 30 are Orthodox. My mother bought Kosher meals for the ones who are Kosher and figures we don't need to spend the money on the non Kosher people for Kosher food, especially since the non Kosher is the majority. Now the Rabbi is asking us why everything the isn't a wall separating the dancing. I am in no way on that level. And now the Rabbi is pretty much telling me that he will tell the Orthodox people not to come to the reception. Who is he to tell people they can't celebrate at my wedding?! I understand some of the very religious can't dance. But they can't come to the room? I am not at the level of separate dancing, my family doesn't even know what that means! Sorry knotties, had to let some steam out! Thanks for giving me the opportunity to do so.