I'd like to incorporate some Jewish elements into our ceremony in a personal way that feels meaningful to us, but I also don't want to inadvertently offend anyone. I'm thinking of the ketubah, breaking of the glass, and the hora dance. I have questions about the breaking of the glass below.
Note: A family friend will be our officiant, and though he has married couples in the past (he's in his late 60s), he is entirely unfamiliar with traditional weddings really of any kind.
Question: From my research, the breaking of the glass happens after a glass of wine is passed throughout the audience and given the seven blessings. The couple then drinks of the wine and stomps (typically) a different glass (so as to avoid getting wine everywhere). Is that correct? If so, would it be entirely weird to have my fiance's father (who is probably the most Jewish, practicing-wise, in the family) say the seven blessings in hebrew, and then have 6 other people say either a quote or a wish as a "blessing" of sorts before we break the glass? Would you find altering a tradition such as that in this way offensive?
Background: My dad's family is Jewish (culturally, not religiously), and my fiance's family is Jewish (they attend an orthodox synagogue, but they are not orthodox). I would consider myself vaguely Christian, but, aside from a weird one-year stint at Catholic school, I've never attended church. My fiance definitely considers himself Jewish, but he doesn't fast for holidays and hasn't attended synagogue in a few years.
Thank you!!
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