July '11- ASK US ANYTHING!

Leah&JP

Hey girls!!  July '11 here!!  Below you will see an advice post from us but we also wanna be able to answer your questions!!

This time last year we were all where you are right now- anxious, excited, and full of questions.  Please feel free to ask us anything and we will do our best to answer them for you.  It can be wedding, honeymoon, marriage related or totally random!  We don't really have anything off limits on our board and will be completely open and honest with you.....

So ask away!!!!

Nati05

This should be great, thanks! I'm sure I'll have some planning questions later but in the meantime..

What was your favorite moment of the day? Anything you would have done differently?

Also what has been the greatest part/moment of being married so far?

BmoreBride311

Okay - I will start!

What have you replaced the time that you used to spend wedding planning with? I'm kind of excited to get my free time back, and already starting to think about what to fill it with (I can't stand sitting still)!

Leah&JP

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[QUOTE]This should be great, thanks! I'm sure I'll have some planning questions later but in the meantime..
What was your favorite moment of the day?  <strong>My favorite moment of the day was right after the ceremony we went back into the grooms room to sign our wedding certificate with our MOH, officiant, and Best Man.  Then we kicked everyone out and took about 10 minutes just the two of us before more pictures and the reception.  It was so nice to just be like "EEEEK!! WE DID IT!!"  with my new husband!
</strong> Anything you would have done differently?  <strong>I spent so much time making sure that I talked to each guest and making sure that everyone else was happy that the reception flew by.  I felt like I was so worried about everyone else enjoying themselves that I didn't.  If I could do it again I would say "screw them!  It's my day and I wanna have fun!!" 
</strong>Also what has been the greatest part/moment of being married so far?  <strong>I'd say the greatest part of being married is just knowing that he's mine, forever and ever!  I love just laying in bed in the morning looking at him and realizing that I get to wake up to that for the rest of my life!!  </strong>
Posted by Nati05[/QUOTE]

MeaganR12

How many times did you do it on your honeymoon? You said anything...

hahahahahaha just kidding! You really don't have to answer that. I'm highly inappropriate.

mekiakoo

Is there anything you wish you didn't focus too much on during the planning or even during the day?

Any details you thought would matter ending up not mattering at all?

Leah&JP

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[QUOTE]Okay - I will start! What have you replaced the time that you used to spend wedding planning with? I'm kind of excited to get my free time back, and already starting to think about what to fill it with (I can't stand sitting still)!
Posted by BmoreBride311[/QUOTE]

<strong>Right after the wedding I spent a lot of time going through the name change process, writing thank you cards, cleaning and putting away wedding presents, making our house a home, and putting together wedding and honeymoon albums.  Once school started again (I'm a teacher) there really isn't any free time!!</strong>

MrsGandthebeag

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[QUOTE]How many times did you do it on your honeymoon? You said anything... hahahahahaha just kidding! You really don't have to answer that. I'm highly inappropriate.
Posted by MeaganR12[/QUOTE]

<div>lmao, you are awesome.  :)  We did it every day, sometimes twice a day.  Our honeymoon was almost 2 weeks.</div>

honeybear072012

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[QUOTE]Okay - I will start! What have you replaced the time that you used to spend wedding planning with? I'm kind of excited to get my free time back, and already starting to think about what to fill it with (I can't stand sitting still)!
Posted by BmoreBride311[/QUOTE]

This!

ETA NM!  I see the post now!

Leah&JP

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[QUOTE]How many times did you do it on your honeymoon? You said anything... hahahahahaha just kidding! You really don't have to answer that. I'm highly inappropriate.
Posted by MeaganR12[/QUOTE]

<strong>We didn't do it our wedding night.  We didn't do it the night after (we traveled over 18 hours to our destination).  But once we were there we did it daily while on vacation.  Just once a day I think, there may have been a couple double up days, honestly I don't remember!!  But I do remember that it was the last day of the HM and I realized I hadn't worn any of my lingerie yet, so I pulled that out at the very end!!</strong>

Nati05

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[QUOTE]How many times did you do it on your honeymoon? You said anything... hahahahahaha just kidding! You really don't have to answer that. I'm highly inappropriate.
Posted by MeaganR12[/QUOTE]

Bahahahahahaha! I'll admit, I froze for a second when I read that first line!!

Leah&JP

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[QUOTE]Is there anything you wish you didn't focus too much on during the planning or even during the day? Any details you thought would matter ending up not mattering at all?
Posted by mekiakoo[/QUOTE]

<strong>This is so hard.  I want to say everything.  Cause really looking back, all those things I was stressing out about the weeks/days before didn't matter at all.

I'll go with seating chart.  I stressed over this a lot and got sooo upset with extra +1s that I wasn't planning on and last minute cancelations.  But honestly, as soon as dinner was over everyone got up and moved and mixed and mingled so it really didn't matter.  I still would have done a seating chart, but I wouldn't have spent so much time stressing over who sits where. 

A PIP for you of my seating chart- </strong>
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DPDnMe

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[QUOTE]This should be great, thanks! I'm sure I'll have some planning questions later but in the meantime.. What was your favorite moment of the day? Anything you would have done differently? Also what has been the greatest part/moment of being married so far?
Posted by Nati05[/QUOTE]

My favorite moment was walking down the aisle.  We DID have a first look but it still didn't replace that moment of seeing him... the BEST!

The best part of being married so far has just been getting closer, knowing he's mine and I'm his, and making plans for the future.  :)

DPDnMe

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[QUOTE]Okay - I will start! What have you replaced the time that you used to spend wedding planning with? I'm kind of excited to get my free time back, and already starting to think about what to fill it with (I can't stand sitting still)!
Posted by BmoreBride311[/QUOTE]

Right after the wedding... all the stuff that Leah had mentioned--- putting away gifts, sending thank you cards, etc... 

Since then... I'm still trying to figure it out.  :)  We've traveled a lot.  I took a couple of classes--- ballroom dance, yoga... worked out a bit more.  But still looking for a hobby to stick with. 

DPDnMe

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[QUOTE]How many times did you do it on your honeymoon? You said anything... hahahahahaha just kidding! You really don't have to answer that. I'm highly inappropriate.
Posted by MeaganR12[/QUOTE]

You really don't know how inappropriate July 11's are!  :) 

Every day, more than once...   There's definitely no right answer here... just HAVE FUN!  :)

butterflyjumper1

what do you do if you have to do #2 in your wedding gown....................I know it's super TMI but we had a discussion about this last week and a bunch of us were feeling super nervous about that happening!!!!!!!!!!

KatieK501

This is really awesome of you guys!

I've had several people start telling me that "the first year of marraige is the hardest".  Even our pastor said this to us last night in pre-marital counseling.  I know you ladies don't have other years to compare it to, but would you be willing to share if there was something surprisingly difficult that you had to work out?

Epolos89

What was your favorite moment of the day? Walking down the aisle!! It was all I had dreamed it would be my whole life and in that moment I felt so sure and so calm. It was awesome!! Also, I got to peek out the window where we got ready and see H greeting people at the end of the aisle and it was one of the best feelings ever to see him there.

Anything you would have done differently?I would have made sure we got more family photos of all of us. We got us with our families before, but almost no individual families after with me and H and our parents. I totally regret that.

Also what has been the greatest part/moment of being married so far? Seeing my H every single day! We lived together before, but it seemed like the vibe changed. Being his wife!

What have you replaced the time that you used to spend wedding planning with? Hmm well honestly I don't really know! The name change process took a while, all those thank you notes, going through gifts, we moved to a bigger house, so life just kind of filled it all in.

Is there anything you wish you didn't focus too much on during the planning or even during the day? I guess worrying about other people's behavior and what people would think. Everyone was great and had an amazing time.

Any details you thought would matter ending up not mattering at all? Programs and favors. We spent so much time on those bad boys and people didn't even take them! We ended up with a bunch leftover and had to toss a lot of them .It was really sad. I wish we had made about half as many and saved that money

MeaganR12

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[QUOTE]This is really awesome of you guys! I've had several people start telling me that "the first year of marraige is the hardest".  Even our pastor said this to us last night in pre-marital counseling.  I know you ladies don't have other years to compare it to, but would you be willing to share if there was something surprisingly difficult that you had to work out?
Posted by KatieK501[/QUOTE]

<div>Great question!</div>

Epolos89

I've had several people start telling me that "the first year of marraige is the hardest".  Even our pastor said this to us last night in pre-marital counseling.  I know you ladies don't have other years to compare it to, but would you be willing to share if there was something surprisingly difficult that you had to work out?Lucky for us we had already lived together so that was easy, but we have had some personal stuff take place that has made things stressful. I think for a lot of people, including us, it was hard to go from dealing with problems individually to dealing with them as a couple. Even though we had lived together and always consulted each other, it ultimately was an individual decision, now it's always joint and sometimes that is stressful when people don't agree.

Leah&JP

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[QUOTE]what do you do if you have to do #2 in your wedding gown....................I know it's super TMI but we had a discussion about this last week and a bunch of us were feeling super nervous about that happening!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]

YES!!  Thank you for asking this!!  I have super nervous bowels (H calls it nervous poops!).  Whenever I am anxious or nervous I have to go all the time.  I was totally panicing about this before the wedding thinking I would be standing at the alter and have to go #2!!  So I didn't even give it a chance.  I took 2 immodium when I first woke up in the morning.  Didn't go all day!! (Or the next day I believe!  Which caused some discomfort the first day of the honeymoon, but it was worth it!)

Epolos89

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[QUOTE]what do you do if you have to do #2 in your wedding gown....................I know it's super TMI but we had a discussion about this last week and a bunch of us were feeling super nervous about that happening!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]
You either take it off and go, or you hold it until you get home. I honestly didn't have to go at all that day, I think nerves held it in. Plus I took imodium so I wouldn't get nervous and have GI issues. So yea, it really ended up not being an issue

butterflyjumper1

you guys are GENIUSES. Putting immodium on my shopping list right now. Thank you for not making fun of me for asking an awkward question!

Leah&JP

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[QUOTE]you guys are GENIUSES. Putting immodium on my shopping list right now. Thank you for not making fun of me for asking an awkward question!
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]

Seriously, you should hear the TMI we talk about on our board.... when I said nothing is off limits I mean it!! :)

greenkitty23

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[QUOTE]what do you do if you have to do #2 in your wedding gown....................I know it's super TMI but we had a discussion about this last week and a bunch of us were feeling super nervous about that happening!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]
I will answer this one first, just because it's the easiest and there are already a lot of answers to the other questions : )

I don't actually have advice, but I really don't think most will have to worry about it!! Like I mentioned in the advice thread, most of us didn't even PEE all day! I do remember worrying about it a little in the morning cause y'know... all the anxiety and butterflies ; ) But, I wasn't very hungry for those reasons, so I didn't eat much in the morning- just yogurt and of course mimosas! But, then I ate to my heart's content during cocktail hour and dinner, and was totally fine.

I honestly think all the excitement and other stuff to focus on sort of "stops you up" for lack of any other description that would be infinitely better, haha! Hopefully I'm right and you won't have to worry about it...

EDIT: Totally forgot about the existence of Immodium... yeah, do that! haha

Poppy715

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[QUOTE]How many times did you do it on your honeymoon? You said anything... hahahahahaha just kidding! You really don't have to answer that. I'm highly inappropriate.
Posted by MeaganR12[/QUOTE]

Honestly? Like 3 or 4 maybe. I was EXHAUSTED after the wedding. We flew out the next night to Cabo and it was a relief to not have anything to do. I was on BC and my drive was way too low. I wanted to have sex but when we tried it was hard for me to get in the mood. (So sad looking back!) H was really aweet about it but I still feel a little like I let him down.
 
I would suggest you don't worry about how many times! Just have fun being together. :)

MeaganR12

Yeah, immodium really is a brilliant idea.

butterflyjumper1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: July '11- ASK US ANYTHING! : You should come over to our board some day. It's the hub of awkward/weird questions and conversations :)
Posted by udubbride[/QUOTE]

would it creep you out if I told you I have creeped on your board on multiple occasions??? and on every other month when it is their wedding month....bahaha. 

Epolos89

Try to hide the Imodium after though...or you will hear about it from the groomsmen for a good year at least. They walked into the room and saw it and asked who's it was....my MOHs tried to say we had it JIC, but they knew it was lies! I still hear about it!

xctennis

What was your favorite moment of the day?
Reading our vows to eachother, and dancing with him to 'Marry Me' with nobody watching when everyone had gone outside prepping to send us off.

Anything you would have done differently?
Probably would have had a less hectic timeline the day of the wedding (pre ceremony).  I woke up at 8 and the wedding started at 5 and the time between then was a complete blur.

Also what has been the greatest part/moment of being married so far?
Just knowing that I get to spend the rest of my life with my H.

What have you replaced the time that you used to spend wedding planning with?
Hobbies - I had time to read again, and about things not involving weddings!

Is there anything you wish you didn't focus too much on during the planning or even during the day?
Hmm I think I was happy with the amount of time I spent on everything, I don't think I was too obsessive with little details.

Any details you thought would matter ending up not mattering at all?
I think all of the details were mentioned by at least one person so I think they mattered in the end and were worth it.

I've had several people start telling me that "the first year of marraige is the hardest".  Even our pastor said this to us last night in pre-marital counseling.  I know you ladies don't have other years to compare it to, but would you be willing to share if there was something surprisingly difficult that you had to work out?
Even though we lived together for several years before getting married, it probably has been the toughest year of our relationship, I quit a terrible job and working through the stresses of depending upon him financially was not simple.  We're still learning more effective ways of communicating and showing appreciation for eachother even when there are stressful work days or one of us just makes the other mad.

Poppy715

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[QUOTE]Okay - I will start! What have you replaced the time that you used to spend wedding planning with? I'm kind of excited to get my free time back, and already starting to think about what to fill it with (I can't stand sitting still)!
Posted by BmoreBride311[/QUOTE]

I was only working PT while planning so I had pretty much the whole day to plan! When I got back from our HM I had a brand new home to decorate and a whole lot of unpacking to do. Throughout the Summer I did a lot of scrapbooking and spent more time with my nephews.
Now I'm working full time and I don't know how anyone plans a wedding while working this much! I would have been a wreck. I've started to garden and keeping the house in order has kept me busy.

I do miss it sometimes though.