So here's the story ladies. I have 2 sisters and one just got married last year which I was a BM. The day she called and told me she was engaged, I got so excited that I jumped up and accidently hung up on her. I did EVERYTHING she asked of me for her special day eventhough I don't feel like I got the best treatment from her as a BM. After paying for my own dress, shoes, makeup, hair, jewelery, hotel for the wedding weekend, she cancels the reheasal dinner the day of with NO notice to any of the wedding party (literally as we are walking out of the venue I said ok we'll meet you guys at the retuating and she says oh we arent having a reheasal dinner anymore) and the day after the wedding she texts me and says "oh did you get your gift". I said what gift, she said oh I bought you a gift for being in the wedding but it got so crazy I guess I didn't give it to you and know I cant find it. WTH?!?!? No replacement gift ever came or anything and to be honest, I dont know that there was ever a gift to begin with.
Well, now its my time. She hasn't asked to see the ring the last time I saw her. I texted her telling her how excitedI was that I got my dress, she didn't even respond. Now she's pregnant. Yet again when she told me that news I was over the moon. She's constantly posting things related to her pregnancy on FB and I am always commenting or liking her status. However, I notice when I post things related to my wedding, there's not a single response from her. I even have people commenting that aren't even all that close to me.
So here's the dilemma. We are having a very small wedding (like 10 people). I haven't asked her (or either sister) to be a BM just because I don't know if its worth the hassle, mainly because I know how she is. The reaction from my other sister has been great as far as wedding planning but I'm already knowin I cant have one sister as a BM and one not. So Ive narrowed it down to two choices. 1) Have them both as BMs and already try to mentally prepare myself for dealing with her or 2) just skip the whole thing altogether and not have a wedding party at all.
Side note, we have same dad, different mom, and MY mom is already advising me to not deal with it and save myself the trouble but I am thinking maybe I can just have her in it and she will have NO duties. Like show up, wear the dress, take the pics and that's it. What do you ladies think???