All this about the guestlist. Just need to vent and may delete this later...
Issue 1: We sent out the invites ~4(edit) weeks ago and the RSVP date is the first, as in in 2 days the 1st. Guess how many people have contacted me? 20. WTF? You have a stamped and addressed envelopes- Just drop it in the mail. There is even an email address you can respond to (went this route to make it easier for international guess) and most people are on the computer at least once a day. Send the damn email. People keep telling me they assumed I knew they were coming. How did you come up to that conclusion? You think your social calendar is the main thing on my mind?
Issue2: I asked my step-mom since last year her part (meaning her and my late father's) of the guestlist and she told me she has noone. I knew she was just being difficult. I suck it up and went back to her a few times. I even showed her the guestlist I had thus far and asked again. She told me she has no friend and I already included my dad's bestfriends and all. Again, knowing her, I insisted as asked about her BFFs and she told me they are not friends. Asked about her cousin, she said she is too ghetto and she doesn't want to be embarrassed by her. By then I was thinking, well I tried a lot more than anyone else will right?
{PS: FI and I are paying 100% of the wedding. Half of the time, I don't even know why I bother. I guess I want to keep peace in whatever is left of the family but I guess people take it as me being weak...}
So Yesterday I went by to have my little sister try a dress I bought for her and she (my s-mom) ask me if I can please invite 8 people. WTF. The rsvp date is in 2 days. I am well over the number I want and I asked you this many many times for the last year and a half. She starts crying about how this or that person helped her out after my dad's funeral and I can go on. I just don't want to deal with this.
Issue 3: Fi sister in law asked me if she can bring 5 -yes FIVE, so with her hubby that's 7 -people to the wedding because she came from Africa and gave birth at her sister's in Chicago. She kept lying about her due date (first said early April now it's mid May) and demanded I sent her 5 extra tickets (this is not a movie theather that you need a ticket to go to) Don't ask, I don't know why the lie either.... Anyways, I said I will let FI handle it since it's his side of the family. I told him this will never fly. We agreed on a 100 people guestlist for a very good reason and there is no way his SIL (not even Sister but SIL) will make 7% of our guestlist. I have friends and people I have known for over 10 years we are not inviting because we wanted to keep these numbers. So I am thinking he got this. Well for the last 3 weeks they keep going back anf forth and she keeps coming out with new stories to make us change our minds..
She calls me yesterday to say Fi told her I was working on getting her people (which he never said by the way and I am not doing) and that she may not be able to make it if her people are not coming because the baby might be too young to fly. Her sister, BIL, their Kid, her and the newborn will take a road trip. I answered, well that will be sad but I understand (she thinks she's smart!) So she went and gave this sappy story to Fi and he is telling me to add her entourage to the list. Absolutely NOT! They have trains and buses and no you don't have to come.
Homegirl did the same thing at Fi's brother and SIL wedding in Canada last year. And at the wedding, she made everyone uncomfortable by barking orders all night, even telling the photographer how to do her job. I just panick every time I think about that..
Well, FI fell for her tricks, just like his brother did. For someone that smart to be this gullible by some manipulative chick like this is driving my off the wall. I told him no and I feel like this fight will never end. She is creating tension between Fi and I like she did with his brother and his wife and I am about to cut both of them.
ish!