So I have a brother who lives out in Cali that none of me or my siblings have ever met. A couple of years ago my other brother found him on FB and we have been chatting there. He has talked on the phone with my sister a few times and told her how he really want to ask my dad what happened and all that. We told him that he may never get the answers he is looking for, it was a long time ago and a lot was involved, and dad is kinda private about those things.
Anyway, he was really excited for the wedding and wanted to come, but i had to tell him that I didnt want to spring him on dad after they have spoke in 25 years on my wedding day, and that i hope he can get in contact with dad so they can talk, be cool and he can come. I wouldnt give him dads number, but told him he is listed on whitepages. Long story short, my sister told my dad we have all talked and that my brother wants to call him. Dad was cool with it and said that my brothers mom had emailed him saying how he wanted to come to the wedding. So basically, his mom had contact info for my pops, but never gave it to him??
They finally talked, played sme catch up and what not, and dad asked me if I wanted him to come to the wedding. Of course I do. When i asked brother how their convo went he said that he didnt really get to clear the air with him, it was just small talk. I think im going to send him a message and tell him to keep calling dad and get to know each other, and dont hold out for answers...he may never get them, but it doesnt even matter now because we are all finally together.
I am so excited to meet him for the first time, and at of all places, my wedding! I really hope him and my dad can form a relationship these next couple of months and no one feels akward at the wedding. I hope my brother doesnt have any hard feelings for my dad, and doesnt feel any kind of way if he kinds out some truths about his mother that he didnt know or want to know. knowing that she had contact info for my dad really bugs me...why didnt she give it to my brother sooner? oh well... I just dont think any of it even matters anymore.