How to inform BMs nicely, that we're doing H/MU at 6:00 am

mgoss228

So because of all the little things that change as the wedding gets closer, we have to start H/MU at 6:00 am (originally it was 7:00 am).  Some of my BMs got all frustrated with the 7:00 am start time when I first informed them. 

How would you recommend I tell them of the early start time?

And when should I let them know?  Now/ASAP, or at the Rehearsal, etc? 

I'm paying for the H/MU styling and the Hotel rooms so they will all be onsite for Saturday morning, so I don't think it's a big deal, but I know I'm going to get OMG's from some of them.

Sorry for all these totally random, last minute questions!

meganhardan

I would let them know ASAP. I would just be honest about it, something like "hey guys, I know that it sucks, but I've talked with the photographer (or whoever), and we need to start getting ready at 6:00 am to make sure that we are ready in photos in time.  I know it's early, so to sweeten the deal I'll have (Insert here whatever floats your boat--doughnuts, fruits, muffins--or my recommendation, mimosas!)  Thanks so much for being awesome bridesmaids and supporting me on the big day.  Love, mgoss"

6 isn't that much earlier than 7 in  my opinion, and it's better to start early then to be rushed all day.  Good luck!

Oh, also, just out of curiosity, how much "getting ready" time are you having?  I have only recently started thinking of the day of timeline and photos, so I'm curious to see how much time you are alotting

mgoss228

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[QUOTE] Oh, also, just out of curiosity, how much "getting ready" time are you having?  I have only recently started thinking of the day of timeline and photos, so I'm curious to see how much time you are alotting :)
Posted by meganhardan[/QUOTE]

We'll be doing Hair and Makeup for <strong>5 hours</strong>, that is for me, 5 BMs, and only makeup for FMIL.

Then we are leaving the hotel, so we can get to the venue and I will get dressed (I don't want my dress to wrinkle on the car ride).<strong> </strong>Travel should be about<strong> 20 minutes</strong>, and I'll get there about <strong>30 minutes</strong> before First Look photos.

And I go "hide" about <strong>30 minutes</strong> before the ceremony.

kristend72

I'm totally with Megan. Tell them now and sweeten the deal with breakfast. Also, if you're doing a total of five hours for, I assume, one person to do everyone's hair and makeup, yes? Can you ask one or two of your very closests to take the hit for the team and go first at 6 so the others can sleep? It would probably be easiest to convince one that you've been a BM for or will be in the near future.

Also, if you're doing hair and makeup for five hours, I would say that you should plan a marathon of a favorite show or movie series.

mgoss228

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[QUOTE] Also, if you're doing hair and makeup for five hours, I would say that you should plan a marathon of a favorite show or movie series.
Posted by kristend72[/QUOTE]

GREAT idea!  Thanks <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

mgoss228

Oh, one more question to anyone who has an opinion:

Should I give them the option of opting out if they don't want to get up early?  Like they would have to do their own hair and makeup.  I can still technically alter my contract for the # of people getting H/MU done.  So a couple might opt out of one or both services, and that could shorten the "beauty" time.

Thoughts? 

emyinpink

Honestly, I would be annoyed if I had to get up for a 6am 5-hour hair and make-up session even if I loved the bride. I would much much much prefer waking up closer to 8 or 9, and just doing my own hair/make-up. So I would definitely tell them ASAP, and also let them opt out.

Frogger5

I also think 6am is really extreme for hair and makeup, especially if you don't really care if they do their own. Not like they can take a nap after their hair is done!

Is it all being done by one person? Is there any chance you could hire another stylist, so that the total time is reduced but the number of stylist hours stays the same? (You know, two stylists for 2.5 hours each.)

Good luck - either way, I hope your bridesmaids aren't as grumpy as I am in the morning!!

mgoss228

Thank you ladies!  The ceremony is in the early afternoon, and we're taking WP photos before the ceremony, and I have 5 BMs, so that's kinda why it's so early.

I'm working with the stylist to get things done in less time, but I still want to make sure we have a little bit of spare time just in case something crazy happens, so my Day-Of Schedule doesn't go to sh*t first thing in the morning.

I'm a weirdo and wake up at 5:30 M-F, and 8:00 on the weekends, and I forget that not everyone is a "morning person..."